Making Memories
Dementia is not only a memory problem
Agitation, anxiety or getting lost are also issues
Methods of making new memories for people with dementia
Not only a memory problem
Whenever I asked any audience about what they think dementia is they often answer “It’s a memory problem!” And though, of course, people with dementia DO have problems with their memories, the research indicates that the memory issues are not the worst thing about dementia for many people.
Agitation and anxiety
The research shows that people are more concerned about agitation and anxiety, or the person with dementia becoming lost and not able to look after themselves. This can lead to unnecessary precautions being taken. People don’t want to be “kept safe for their own good”. Safety is very important, but so is liberty and the freedom to live well. It would be sad to be locked up in case you get lost.
The memory problem
It can be difficult to explain the memory problem that do occur. There are different sorts of memory problem. In one case, you forget things you used to know, and other cases, you find it hard to learn new things.
Someone might say, “I used to know my way around my home town but now I stand at the War Memorial trying to work out which way to go.” Or they might set off confidently from that famous landmark, but head to a house where they no longer live, having forgotten that they ever moved from there. Another problem is when the person has difficultly learning new things. They might be told “Turn left along here at the War Memorial.” That’s a simple instruction, but by the time they get to the landmark, they’ve forgotten. Or have they forgotten? It might be easier to say that they simply not learn the information when they were told. So it is a learning problem, rather than a remembering one. These things are discussed at greater length in Dementia The One Stop Guide.
Ways of making memories
Whatever you think about dementia, as family anniversaries and birthdays approach, you can still think about making new memories, or trying to. Take photos, and do all the things you used to do. Sing songs, tell stories, and make special meals and cakes. Even if the person with dementia can’t remember, right after, the sense of wellbeing they will get from doing familiar things will last throughout the season.
If you would like more information, you can buy my book Dementia, the One Stop Guide or Care Homes: When, Why and How to Choose a Care Home. I am available for consultancy for families or organisations. And if you have any further queries or questions, or suggestions for something you’d like to see me write on, please contact me via the Contact Page
See my new course on Dementia the One Stop Guide on Policy Hub here
